I am mother of 4 and I would love to add on a new entertainment channel sooner or later. 
Yep, I call my babies everything from, “my products, my investments, my billion $.” They keep me entertained so they are my entertainment channel. When you have more than one, it’s fun to sit and enjoy their personalities, their tantrums, their way of caring, loving each other, and their annoyance. My life is so damn meaningful in several ways than one. If you have a big family, you will know it is the combination of different personality that satisfy the soul.
There is no pleasure out there, that is as simple and soothing as your babies giggles. The joy they bring with their stories make it all worth it.

My hubby and I have two boys together, he has been asking for a girl baby for a long time. That I, somehow, know there is one waiting to be part of our family. 
I already have 2 girls from my previous marriage and have 2 boys. I am totally blessed in the baby making area. To add another into the family is an awesome. 
 
However, in today’s “amazing” world,
When I express that intention out, I love to hear comments from others:
People from medical fields immediately say, “You know, you cannot make a normal baby after 40?” 
“Haven’t you had enough?” 
“Don’t do this to your body!”
“Really? One more? Don’t you think that’s a lot on your body?” 
 
I am from a subcontinent, whose population is catching up to be number one soon! 
So I get to hear Indian versions of comments too. 
“India is already populated enough.” 
“You are Indian, don’t you know by now what increase in population can do?” 
“Do you have money to send them to college?”
“You need to start saving up.” 
My maid servant in India told her amazing idea to my mom. She asked my mom to get my tubes tied before I left India, otherwise I would bring 2 more babies on my next visit. 
 
Why are people so concerned about my personal issues? Have you wondered why you are suddenly topic of concern? Why does science reject 40 plus women? Some women are really healthy and can make babies easily, according to my experience. 
Why does the world love to hand you their “sun glasses” and ask you to see the world through each one of their perspective? 
 
It’s another baby. Additional souls bring their own fortune.
Are we as a society not interested in having a guest anymore? 
 
I am married to my American husband and I think if I don’t help America, there won't  be way too many left to call themselves whites in America. White people don’t make that many babies anymore. So I am proud of myself to return the generosity to the nation.
I make fabulous babies, healthy, smart, and wise souls have chosen me. So why not create one more product in an insane world. 
 
In my experience, diapers are expensive is a useless comment. I used diapers for all my kids, and I bought them; recyclable and disposable. We never felt it was expensive, potty training got easier and quick after each baby.
"Babies eat a lot", nope. I cooked for my babies, all my kids eat, but not so much that it burns a hole in my pocket. They don’t get packaged goods and store bought foods, I love to cook for them fresh in the morning and afternoon. 
 
I work with women over 40 to make their dream come true of being a mother. Surprisingly they make amazing 8-9 lb. babies. People in the medicine fields treat them like they are crazy and are risking their lives to have a baby. I make sure to prepare these ladies to reject opinions of science scared cats. But in actual my experience says, “You are so much more mature to make an amazing baby at 40 than in your 20’s. 
 
It all depends on the woman and her health. If you are a guinea pig to the medical industry and have a million issues physically, you may need to stop making products. Then, I clearly get it, it is risky. If you have had more than 2 C- section, tearing open your uterus again is certainly a bad idea. Mother's who have tried too long, couldn't conceive during their peak career time and is ready to invest time in creating a baby should be encouraged. Science did not exist few hundred   years back, baby's were birthed during that time. Women did get pregnant at 40's, some did great, some may not have. 
 
I love the saying, “Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself.”
I love that I have learnt to recognize people handing their sun glasses to me. Now, I reject immediately. 
I have always been healthy. I have had emotional ups and downs as an adult. Apart from that, my body is fabulous and extremely healthy. After I did my unassisted birth, I take my body’s cues very seriously. I love my life in such a vast perspective that when people say I cannot do something, that is when I have to prove them wrong. 
It’s been an amazing journey. I was a rebel since birth. J
Now that I am nearly kissing my 40, I pick and choose what I need to prove and what I can reject.
 
I teach seniors and hangout with lot of people born in the 1920’s or 1930’s. They have one big piece of advice that they give. "Don’t let age pass by, that you regret not doing it." 
One lady said, "You can never have enough". 
None of them ever complain, "my baby ate a lot and took all my money". They never mention that they paid for college for all the kids and they don’t spend time with me. 
They live in senior living and adjust to their lives and are excited to see when their family visits them. Having kids is a blessing. If you can make your own fantastic, if not adopting is an amazing quality.
 
Such opinionated sunglasses are given to our next generation and they have so many infertility issues. Fear is fed in them from early on. With just 
You come without any money, you are taken care. Universe bends over its back to support you. Gaia loves us to keep giving us what we need. Humans screw it up! Nature knows how to recycle humans too. 
When you don’t have a soul picking you as parents, think about what all you say out loud regarding having an uninvited guest home. 
Are you constantly busy? It’s not time yet?  You are not ready? such sentences in your energy field is blocking your ability to make a good baby.

My mom lost 3 babies after me and that never induced fear into me. Every time I got pregnant, my mom said, “Stop no more.” 
It took time for her to understand its luxury in having spirits to share your life with. 
 
If not for relationships, there is nothing more meaningful in the world. We, as spirits, learn through experiences and expressing ourselves; and we need company of other, different souls. 
If there is a desire, manifest it! 
Life is too short to regret, compromise and live in suffering. 
 
Stop borrowing sun glasses from others. The world was a beautiful place and a much happier place before we started nuclear families. It will always be abundant and beautiful. Stop spreading the fears you carry. 
I suggest my clients, if you have the desire to add a baby to your family. Do it! Nature has provided with several herbs that can enhance the uterus and create a great environment. 
With determination, Miracles happen...

When a woman conceives, she has several questions that run through her mind. Every thought is related to the welfare of the creation she is working on. Her hormones change and the increase in progesterone levels add to the discomfort of her growing body. 
In today’s world, working is inevitable. A lot of women do not have the luxury of staying home. Resting or working becomes a choice. I sometimes ask my clients, obstetrics is also part of a career; to have a baby is important for your self-growth and transformation into the next phase of life. Sometimes, a baby is a surprise. No one in the family is ready yet. Instead of creating too many unwelcoming thoughts, it is important to accommodate as life happens. Just flow with the  life surprises. If you are a control freak, this area is not under your control, learn to surrender.

One question i come across often is, is there a way around prenatal discomfort? 
 We forget that our body is doing all that it has to, to make room for the little one. I personally taught throughout my pregnancy. A lot of women work till their due date, or till the baby is ready to show up. Discomforts exists in all pregnancies. Frequency and intensity differ with each woman and with every new pregnancy. It is up to you to accept the discomfort and figure out solutions or create millions of thoughts of how hard whole journey is. Keep the end results on mind that will create a joyous outlook on the entire journey.
 
These are some of the ways you can manage working and being pregnant at the same time. Accept that your mind slows down and in certain situations you can forget things. Do not assume that your body is the same. I like to write notes to remind me of a lot of things as I progress in my pregnancy. It is proved scientifically that we lose brain cells with each pregnancy. I have had 4 of them, so I am not sure about the count of my brain cells. I have had such amazing experiences with each pregnancy. I have gotten better in managing it now. Below are 5 types of meditation that helped ease my life and bring harmony in my family and my journey with each pregnancy.
 
Meditation can improve your concentration and also result in the baby’s ability to be calm and concentrate. It also provides foundation for bonding that happens later when the baby arrives. It removes frustrations, and brings clarity into women's mind. Pregnancy can trigger certain emotions that are not worth taking a ride on, as everything is absorbed a tiny little one inside you.
 

• Simple breathing (So-Hum Meditation): I usually do this as soon as I get home. It energizes me immediately. When I was carrying my little one, I drove an hour and half everyday back and forth, as my commute to teach at different federal buildings in DC. When I got home, I always had a sink full of dishes and other kids who needed me to cook dinner for them. Sometimes I had no food, if I reached home hungry.  What I cooked before I left home would not wait for me, so I always made sure to stop and eat before I reached home. No one wants to receive a hungry preggers, neither are you in a state to give all a smile and hug. Some days, I sat in the car and took 5-10 min on focusing on my breathing.                                   Each inhale I named as SO and each exhale is named HUM. It erased all my restless thoughts. My mind calmed down as I visualized going through the whole evening, helping my family. It helped me practice acceptance, instead of expecting everyone in the family to understand your tiredness and exhaustion. I come across several clients who struggle with managing their emotions when they get home. They take complete liberty in throwing their frustration from the whole day on the near and dear ones. We, somewhere, ask for our family to somehow understand our tired and exhaustion with out communicating it. We tend to give our best to all the people whom we interact through out the day, sometimes even strangers. We tend to miss use the love and hand out our crap to people who love us the most, our family. So-Hum Meditation has always helped me to not show resentment, frustration and exhaustion on my family. I went home lovingly asking, “How can I serve you all?”. I vibrating at peacefulness and calmness, soon made everyone pitch in. All the dishes were done by my hubby. He even helped out in cooking. Within few days, they understood I have long days and asked me sit on couch as they all got together to be a pleasant and happy family. I understood the meaning of "Giving pleasantly" as I practiced acceptance.
• Self-Affirmations: We as women work a lot. We, deep in our hearts love to expect people to notice and appreciate us. We sometimes live all our life waiting for someone to just compliment and reaffirm that we give a lot. I usually tell my clients, no one is waiting to give you an Oscar at the end of our journey. We, establish the foundation of how people should treat us. I ask all my clients to appreciate themselves. Affirmations help us feed in awesomeness that exists in the world. Our minds love to hear good words. According to research, Human brain listens to what we say out loud and images we create along. If I created images of the sink full of dirty dishes and everyone ignoring me when I get home, your mind will resent your family; and create energies that aren’t pleasant and harmonious. When the baby you are carrying sees world through you, you want the new member to love and share a harmonious relationship with each member of the family. It is unfair to the arriving soul to have resentful and unloving images and feelings towards the family members.  Self-affirmations reassure the baby to sense, how amazing the world is. Images that emphasize everyone is amazing, ready to receive the little one, creates warmth and welcoming environment inside and outside. We all work hard and would love to provide all that we can for our kids. Affirmations provide our mind to believe in good things and when every cell in your body listens to how you talk to yourself, it reaches good energies to the growing baby. The baby naturally gains confidence and this will in return reduce all kinds of complications in labor. Self-affirmation, words that are positive for yourself, your family, and strong affirmative sentences all results into manifesting our amazing reality.

•  Guided visual meditation: I have several guided meditations that I do on myself every night before I fall asleep. All my babies have slept through out the night, leaving me with a great night sleep. With each guided mediation, my aches and pains reduced. I fell asleep magically, even with the worst severe heart burn that  was a nightmare towards end of my pregnancy. As I taught my classes, I took participants through guided meditations too and that added to a calm baby during the days. I drove and taught without taking too many pee breaks. My baby's were completely calm and gentle. They took time to listen to my voice better. Baby's from the womb recognizes mother’s tone of voice. It builds foundation of listening and talking calmly. I personally have noticed babies do not cry much once they are out of intrauterine life, as guided meditation gives your mind to add images to reality.    

 

• Connecting to higher self: We all know that there is something higher than us. Spirits choose you as mom for a reason and karmic bonding happens in the womb. Ask your higher self to communicate and connect with the growing member of the family that bonds you and the baby better. I personally have best relationship with all my kids. I’ve practiced Raja yoga meditation for a long time. I am aware of whom I have a karmic relationship with and who is the new soul that I am supposed to bond with. If you can imagine an example of a play or drama, we do not choose the actors; director takes responsibility to choose actors for us to play with. When we first meet them, we can recognize that we have played a few roles with them before bond instantly, or the spirit is a new addition to the drama cast, needs effort to bond. I could communicate with the higher selves of all my kids. I teach this meditation to most of my clients when they have a spouse with difference of opinion or kids who seem to not listen, and there is a mismatch in their opinions. It is beautiful to connect with your higher self and the spirit who is playing a role with you as a family member. Miscommunications and the difference of opinions ceases to exist as you understand yourself and their patterns better.   

• Gratitude: I cannot mention this enough. I have had several clients who give me such positive feedback after starting a gratitude journal. Gratitude as an energy is at higher frequency, it can manifest anything you want on this planet. Universe is a reflecting mirror, gratitude towards life, all that you are blessed with and this moment is reflected back at you. what you put out and say out loud, more of same energy comes back to you. I have manifested an umbrella on a raining day, free grocery from wholefoods, and a man who carried car batteries to the third floor to restart my van on the coldest day. I am amazingly lucky and gratitude has helped me in all that. I call it my powerful, ultra-pure fuel which generates miracles after miracles in our lives. I express my gratitude for choosing me as “mother” to all my kids. After working with women who struggle to attract a soul as their baby, I realize what a blessed women I am. It is kids who bring pleasure to us, even if my living room is full of mulch and food crumbs. It is luxury to have and enjoy smiles and cries, to support another soul to play their part in this reality.  They see the whole world through me, since god cannot be everywhere, he created mothers. If each mother saw the world as a beautiful place and created babies with complete gratitude, we as a planet will definitely vibrate at a higher frequency.   

I am in bliss, with over pouring gratitude. I get to write my experience and I have "You" to read this. I hope just reading this article may help you as a reader to feel gratitude. Thank you! 
 
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In my experience, I have had couples that are very loving towards each other. They have great paying jobs and have settled in the so called, “American dream life.” Their only wish is to have a baby to complete their family. Infertility issues have increased in high income countries and no one can explain the reason behind it.
Some of them have gone in the direction of science. They have tried on IVF’s and struggled emotionally and mentally because of it. They have no issues physically, except after trying for several years when there is no conception, they get termed as Infertility.

Ayurveda defined it clearly thousands of years earlier. A couple, apart from have a healthy ovum and sperms also need divine help to conceive a baby. We are all spirits living inside a body.
If your body is healthy and definitely capable of conceiving, the missing link is a spirit who is delaying the process of choosing new parents—the baby is not ready to enter your lives yet.
That spirit, which has to choose you as parents, is not here yet. If you are not spiritual, this article may seem nothing but words. If you are science minded and assume a pill can offer you another being, then this may be a waste of time for you to read.

What is the reason that a soul is not choosing you as a parent? Why is there a delay? Have you wondered this several time? I have wondered for a long time.
According to the quantum theory, you create your reality.
Ancient texts have already mentioned this thousands of years before,
“Yatha dristhi that ha shshrti.”  As an observer, you are creating your reality.
The more you feed yourself with information of how the world is not good; you attract the same energy towards you.

You try for 6 months to 1 year and the efforts go down a little. Dissipating thoughts arise in your mind, “Is there something wrong with me?” " Is there something wrong with my partner?" and so your mind plays several movies on your mind.
Because of all this, you start your journey of looking into infertility clinics.
Due to visits to several doctors, you have installed a beautiful program of,
        “Why is it not working for me?”
Soon, you are new patient to several other doctors, You now have a team of acupuncturists, Reiki healers, other herbalists and our most famous money making chemical inducing infertility clinics.
All of them have the same programming of, “Why are you not conceiving?” as a pop up error message every time they see you. As soon as they see you, the energy that is followed by a thought is, “they are struggling to conceive.” Each person now adds on to the energy of " They are not conceiving" all of them are on look out for that highlighted program, "Why?"
            
You also inform extended family members and people around you. They are all on the same thought process. “Why are you not conceiving?”
Imagine you had a stain on your shirt. Instead of working on clearing it, you wear it constantly and ask everyone to notice your stain again and again. Now the stain has started to look so big that it is constantly on your mind. All you think of is, “there is a stain on my shirt.” even if some people don't see is it, you carrying the energy of look at my stain can catch attention of others. 
Now, everyone is used to seeing the same stain you carry in your energy field. To add on to this situation, your family and doctors choose to show you your stain and keep mentioning your shirt is getting old.
Very similar people who ask, “Why do I have to pay so many bills?”
They end up manifesting more bills to pay. Universe generously bringing the same energy and more bills for them to pay.
You asked, “Why?” And the universe responds in showing you the reasons "why" over and over again.

You are carrying a so much baggage in your energy field. Then, you attract similar minded people who share their experience of not able to conceive and pour out their emotional journey. Please stop spreading news about how and why you’re not able to conceive, it’s just going to add to the team of people who are creating the same situation for you again.
Everyone has babies so easily. Why don’t you? More and more people add on with your experience and make it seem like it is impossible. They even offer you suggestions of other methods. While your mind hasn't been able to figure out answer for your question. 
Soon you will start feeling sorry about not making a baby for your own. Doctors also love showing you your age, the big number—they like telling you that you are 38 and above.

If you are in the blame game, then your mind will love to project it on your partner. mind may pop up some other reasons, it may be due to smoking and drinking in your teenage years, and several others. You kind of develop a negative thought process towards your beautiful body. There is no end when your mind gets creative. “Why am I not able to conceive?” 
Your mind's main function is to retrieve data from your experiences. 

If you ever take into consideration, you are an infinite being on this planet. You are here to enjoy everything that is available. Allow you to really manifest everything and experience everything. Soon, it will start to seem very easy.

These are some activities that you can work on:
First week, visualize and meditate on someone bringing you a bag of apples. Every day, sit in a comfortable place and meditate on receiving a bag of apples. You do not have to match a face; just imagine you are so grateful that someone brought you apples. See yourself receiving it and feeling extremely happy and thanking them. It may take a day, or a month. But this activity needs patience and determination. You are customizing your order of receiving apples from the universe. It will take time to show up in your energy field, depending on the self-doubt you have in your thought pattern.
            Work on deleting your self-doubts, all kinds of thoughts will arise.
“This is silly, my doctor knows better, my body is my doctors responsibility, the ovulation monitor doesn’t lie, etc…”
On the first day, your mind will show how many ways are there for you to go and get apples. Give it time, and ignore what your mind shows you. The universe has to keep bringing solutions to get the apples. Throughout this time, continue visual meditation on receiving apples in some way or other. It doesn’t have to come to you in a certain way, like only your husband has to buy and so forth.It may be offered by a coworker or a grocery store may simply give an apple. There are several ways of receiving.
            Even if you reject an apple from a coworker, the universe knows what you really want and it will bring it to you again and again until you finally accept it with gratitude.
Once you receive the apple, which is your experience in your field of energy. Be grateful and spread gratitude and let that circulate in your friend’s circle on how receiving an apple was a miracle that came true. You manifested it out of nowhere. It is important to discuss this with near and dear ones. It will help your mind believe that you attracted apples. You will definitely attract the new life in you.

Next find another object to start visual meditation. This may take longer or a few days. Being open to receive unconditionally is the key to start manifesting it.

Question the universe. A small kid will try as many ways as possible to get what he wants. He stops at nothing! He will disregard your ‘no's’ and is persistent. Ask the universe, “Show me ways to be pregnant and receive a new life.” Similarly, the soul needs to be part of your journey will have to find you eventually.

Maybe there’s family for that spirit who do not want to let go of their elderly. These days our life span has increased, that may be delaying a life to begin new journey. Whatever may be the reason for the delay, as a couple, let this beautiful guest make its way into your home. Energy reaches the spirit. Pray, send blessing to the family associated with the spirit to let go. 
Emphasis that this baby will be part of your life now, you as parents are ready to receive and welcome. So you can enjoy the new addition to your family.
Meditate every day. Ask this new addition to make its way—say you are prepared, ready to receive this being. When you want a guest to visit you, you let them know that you have their room ready and are cooking several dishes just so they choose to come live with you. Make your love tempting, so the delay can stop and a pure soul can choose you as parents.
Start to visualize your baby. Your psychology will definitely create and manifest into the biology of a new baby. If you work spiritually, nothing is impossible! 😊

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As I’m reaching my great 40’s, I’ve been respecting my body more. I have always had awareness, respected my body, and eaten right. I did a little bit of an alcohol role, but that was due to my emotional state at that time of life. 


Now that my body goes to talk to me, everyday. I have mapped it all out. A week before my periods arrive, there is a build up just like how estrogen goes up for the ovulatory phase. 
There is build up on the phrases, “I am alone.”
“I am not happy with my husband.” 
”Am I successful?”
A nice reminder is that these patterns exist in your mind and the mind brings it all out like garbage day. 
The kids seem to be blood sucking mosquitoes. 
I want to run as fast as I can, but my body says ‘no I cannot.’ 
Just sleep more. “We are all tired,” says every cell in your body.
“Let’s sit down and go on a rollercoaster of complaining and whining on how we have been a victim in this current world.” 
All that clarity fades away like it’s on vacation. It is awesome how the mind loves to bring up how small you are in this world; how all that you did over several years is absolutely meaningless. 
This is the time when everyone seems to be bothered. Every dust sparkles like it’s a clear cut diamond. 
All the clutter around the house some how manages to grab your attention. Every minute of the day seems like an hour. All I want to do is hide under sheets. Any meeting or phone call seems like a trip to dentist pulling your teeth.
My belly some how houses gas, as if they all got invited for a party and they have bloated me so much that my boobs can feel the pressure and expand. 


Anything that I eat has a big consequence of exploding next day. I must say, I love this time of my month. It hasn’t even hit the camping zone yet, but my body seems to be camping up on mountains. Experience teaches a lot. I have loved my body even when it is struggling to keep up with what I want to do. 
I always feel like I am a walking miracle conducting 300 trillion cells performing an orchestra. 


I love, love, love my body. Here are some tips to help you with this phase of the month. 

1. Eat a lot of greens and grains. Yes, adding oats and other grains makes a boost of serotonin hormones take a back seat during this phase. Mixture of all kind of greens and grains adds progesterone. Not raw greens as it ends up creating more gas, but good amounts of wholesome carbs. Not bagel, or pizza, or anything made of wheat; but try millets and steel cut oats. 
2. Love your body. Massage with sesame seed oil while in a candle light bath. All of these are awesome to appreciate yourself. Many women feel appreciation should come from bosses, co workers, or family. This is best time to highlight how awesome you are. Your mind is on a slippery slope. If you take the slide down it is self destructive and brings out lower ends of self esteem and self confidence. If you can highlight your accomplishments and appreciate yourself, your mind has no choice but to accept it. 
3. Go for pedicure. Get pretty and schedule appointments where you get pretty. Clean up your closet and throw away things that don’t make you happy. I have found that I am mostly honest during this time. My attachment to certain clothes or belongings seems absurd during this phase. So it’s easier to leave things.
4. Make it a rule to have cleaners during this week. If you are your own cleaning crew, get to work. You will be able to do excellent cleaning and you will feel like a women with a cape during this time of the month.
5. Finish up all pending work related to the office. So during periods, you can calmly enjoy a peaceful resting time. Do not get into arguments here, it will lead to failure and emotional crying. Save yourself from any conflicts. 
6. Eat less. As we near our periods, our inner digestive flame gets a little low. So, eating mindfully helps not get gas rent your body. This is where your mind wants you to get on emotional eating, but you can resist the temptation to avoid bloating. 
7. Let your husband know. He is not the fav human being on this planet this particular week, but you can ask him to help you so you have more time for yourself. This is the week when your husband can be a chauffeur for the kids. He can take them to park so you have some quiet time at home. It will save him from taking your emotional weakness and asking that annoying question, “are you nearing your periods?” Gosh!!! I dislike that question more than some one calling me fat. 
8. Walk. Spend time in the nature, take your lunch out under a tree and marvel about how amazing world is. Nature tends to take you into a mesmerising zone of love for yourself. 
9. Appreciate your body. This is the time many women really create a lot of negative thoughts. All of them get stuck around your energy field. Instead of self loathing, really appreciate your body for miracles it has done in the past. 
10. It’s not a great time to go on date. The mind becomes a feminist and has all hateful thoughts towards the other gender. Resist this, again if you are single ready to date, these thoughts will hover around you and push away the right person who may want to really be with you.

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The human mind, an amazing equipment in itself.


It takes 2 years to lift our feet off the ground and jump. But, we lose that jumping part in our head when we turn 65 or older. Our mind shows us right and wrong, makes us see the world through experiences that are stored, and it chews on all kinds of stale data fed into it long back.


Our beautiful mind is too scared of what is ahead and always protects us from new experiences. When you take risks, it reminds us of what was comfortable and wants us to be safe. Our mind can give us millions of reasons why we cannot enjoy our life this very moment. Excuses like that are menu cards, they show up when ever we are ready to flash it on others.


I’ve been teaching yoga for 12+ years. I have taught yoga to 2 to 95 year olds. The mind is a miracle, it is so different and versatile in all ages.
I have been working with traumatic brain injury clients and they have given me a new perspective on how the human mind works.


In my everyday, from yoga to healing clients, I hear several complaints. Some are serious and some are workable, if you have learnt how to tackle the mind.
"My husband is not what I really thought he is and would be. I am not sure if I should break up or continue.”
"I am scared. I will fall, my balance is very bad.”
“I am scared of flying. How do I over come that fear?”
“My only fear is that something may happen to my son or daughter."
“What if I die?"
"I am so lonely! What if I never find anyone to be with?"
“I don't want to be with that man, but I have to live with him."
“My family expects a lot out of me. What can I do to fill it all?”


In all these forms of fear, it is the mind that has taken over you. There are several reasons for it to act this way:
It is constantly feeding your mind with thoughts that are scary. You may read books that have fear related concepts. You may have had experiences that are scary. Your parents may have loaded you up with fear that they had carried for generations.


In my experience, the mind can be tricked. One way is to give it a wrong image for fear. Our mind constantly accepts the words we say out loud. So you should always watch what you say.
A saying like, “I am broke,” may be fancy for you to use in terms of money, but your body and mind takes it very seriously.
When you say sentences like:
“I am starving.”
“I am dying to do it.”
They all affect us in some way or another way.


All diseases arise from the mind. It is all psychosomatic. The body is finally reflection of the mind.
When my husband is yelling at me, I imagine him playing a harp. Soon, my mind understands it is just amusement. Our fight ends there, as I am so amused that other people’s pattern are not recognisable for my mind anymore. Our mind is confused to even bring up, "he did this last time. Next time I need to be loud.”
"Why doesn't he understand?"
etc...


When I fly, I create an image of myself sitting in the safest seats for a science experiment.
One thing that has helped me the most is when my mind brings up certain thoughts from the past: I ask 1 question to my mind.
“Will I die from this?”
My mind always answers the question with, “NO.”
Then it gets easier to reason with my mind; that this is not end of me and I have more days to live.
Sayings such as,
“I am here to enjoy!”
“How can I amuse myself?"
"Joy is contagious!”
“Overcome fear and celebrate joy!”
“Live today and tomorrow will take care of itself!”
"Experience joy now and believe joy will find you in future."
"Do the things you dislike to do and you will discover greatness!"
As human being you have a choice and awareness. In every situation make a choice, and be aware of what choice you should make next.


When I mediate, my mind loves to complain. That has been a challenge for me to over come after we moved to Denver.
One more thing that has helped a lot in discipling my mind, is to talk to it sweetly and say fabulous things to it. And it really believes everything I say.

We, humans, are infinite beings. We hold immense power to make anything happen. But why is it that some women are unable to create a baby?


Before you go on you guilt vacation, I want you to answer few questions.

1. Do you respect your body and eat healthy food?

My oldest daughter is 14 this year. She took time to realize that showering everyday is a must. She still eats nutrition-less and sugary food sometimes, but currently she is making healthy choices.
We take time to know what is right for us. Especially in today's world, where icons show off their curvy body, killing themselves working out physically, or starving. If you treat your body for modeling for your online profile picture and have no interest in discovering what is healthy for your body; seasonally, according to location you live (etc...) Why should nature give you another being?

2. Are you ignorant and lack information on what chemicals do to your body?
If you took countless pills while growing up, including multi vitamins, head ache pills, pills to postpone your periods; that results in channels clogging and toxic setting in your body. That could be a reason to not have a baby. The body is a natural cleanser. You should work on changing your habits and taking care of your body.

3. Sexual Abuse
Yes, many women I work with have or had an experience of some form or kind of sexual abuse in their younger age. Go back in time, write the experience, how you felt, show your mind it was just an incident and make peace with the incident. That will bring in value to be in a women's body. Detach your mind from all kinds of negative comments that you have gifted yourself to define your sacred body.



4. Dislike towards husband,
In my experience, many of my clients who go through infertility treatment do not like their spouse. Their mind is not able to reason it out as to why they don't like the man they want to have a baby with. It is strange that women who choose contraceptives also have some form of rejection towards their spouse. They try and are desperate to make a baby but in actuality, they don't have acceptance towards their husband.
Our body is intelligent. It is hard for the body to just accept a sperm and reject the whole being and their family. Not liking your in-laws can play a part too. Our cells in our body know how to love. But you cannot suddenly suddenly categorise
“ I like him when he buys flowers.”
Or
"I don't like him when he is angry"
(ect...)


5. Gender issues
Many of my clients who have issues with living in a women's body or have their mom in a weaker role, have certain issues in conceiving. There is huge block in accepting a man in your life. The reason for this is that a father figure would have set a negative experience in their lives. An easy activity to do is to write what is not okay with your father figure. Then, ask your mind,
“Is it relevant any more in your life?”
And next, compare it with several men who are amazing in the world. In my opinion,
"Not all men are selfish, because the world is too big and one life is too less, for one person to know all the men in the world.”


6. YOUR opinions on babies
In your younger days, you rejected the idea of a baby. You may have thought babies are dirty or whiny (etc...)
"I will never have a baby.”
“I would love to be someone first.”
"A family are for the under achievers.”
All these thoughts might have been in your head and shared as a conversation with you and your girl friends. It does exist in your energy field. It is blocking you from seeing "+" on your pee stick.


However, Conceiving a baby cannot be the ultimate goal. In our ancient texts, there is so much emphasis placed on how to conceive a baby. As a mother, a women, and daughter; I have had my own struggles.
In all those forms, I can only see that I am an infinite being and I can achieve anything I want in life.
As a healer, I have gained a lot of insight on thoughts that create blocks. I believe that we all wear sunglasses. We see our world through several sunglasses, some taught, some borrowed, some assumed and believed blindly.
If you want to transform and give our planet a better future, work on yourself first.
I believe in making a baby is a miracle and give yourself a chance.


Contact me for more info: vinayasaunders@gmail.com